What makes you unique? There are millions of dating profiles out there who consists of a few bland phrases like “Single male, 40 years old with general interests looking for female for long walks on the beach.” Exactly what are general interests? And why do so many people who claim to be devoted fans of those long walks on the beach turn out to be couch potatoes that never want to go anywhere unless it is inside a car? If your last long walk on a beach took place when you were 8 years old, don’t list it as the main activity in your life. If you love to watch cricket on TV and are famous among friends and neighbours for your spicy honey-mustard glazed pork ribs, write about that instead. By doing so, you will greatly increase your chances of attracting that special person who loves having friends and neighbours over for a BBQ party in the garden or spend a lazy Sunday watching sports on the telly.
Some people have very specific ideas about what kind of person they wish to meet. “Female, 25-27 years old, blond, green eyes, athletic, must love shellfish, must live in Idaho, must have a car.” If you know from experience exactly what you want from a relationship, it is naturally perfectly okay to include sentences such as “I don’t drink alcohol and I don’t want my future spouse to do that either.” But what about those stubborn ideas of you only being able to love a person with green eyes, are they really set in stone? A lot of people have stumbled over their true love and been surprised to find that she was actually a 30 year old female with brown hair and blue eyes living in Michigan who did not own a car and who was not very athletic at all. Remember the old saying “If you always do things the same way, you will always get the same results”. Maybe the reason why you are not in a loving relationship right know is because you haven’t fully realised what it is you really want. It is therefore advisable to avoid including extremely specific demands in your profile – let life surprise you a bit!
Studies show that an online dating profile with a picture will yield a lot more responses than one without. You may think it shallow of people to demand a photo – and some people are very shallow online as well as offline – but the truth is that you don’t have to look like gladiator or a supermodel to yield more responses once you have added your picture. A perfectly normal everyday picture of you smiling into the camera or participating in one of your favourite activities (cooking, gardening, rollerblading etcetera) will do fine. A lot of people do not wish to initiate contact with persons who do not post their picture online, because one far too common reason for people to avoid posting a photo is them already being married or engaged and afraid of anyone recognizing them on the Internet.
Dare to be personal! If you feel that the suggestions above are silly or do not fit your personality, don’t use them! The aim of your dating is to find a person that is compatible with you, the true you, and the more honest you are about yourself the higher your chances of finding someone who appreciates you for who you truly are. A profile that makes you into something you really are not will only attract the wrong type of persons; persons that you have no future with.
How to create a good dating profile
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