How
to create a good dating profile
What makes you unique? There are millions
of dating profiles out there who consists
of a few bland phrases like “Single
male, 40 years old with general interests
looking for female for long walks on the
beach.” Exactly what are general
interests? And why do so many people who
claim to be devoted fans of those long
walks on the beach turn out to be couch
potatoes that never want to go anywhere
unless it is inside a car? If your last
long walk on a beach took place when you
were 8 years old, don’t list it
as the main activity in your life. If
you love to watch cricket on TV and are
famous among friends and neighbours for
your spicy honey-mustard glazed pork ribs,
write about that instead. By doing so,
you will greatly increase your chances
of attracting that special person who
loves having friends and neighbours over
for a BBQ party in the garden or spend
a lazy Sunday watching sports on the telly.
Some people have very
specific ideas about what kind of person
they wish to meet. “Female, 25-27
years old, blond, green eyes, athletic,
must love shellfish, must live in Idaho,
must have a car.” If you know from
experience exactly what you want from
a relationship, it is naturally perfectly
okay to include sentences such as “I
don’t drink alcohol and I don’t
want my future spouse to do that either.”
But what about those stubborn ideas of
you only being able to love a person with
green eyes, are they really set in stone?
A lot of people have stumbled over their
true love and been surprised to find that
she was actually a 30 year old female
with brown hair and blue eyes living in
Michigan who did not own a car and who
was not very athletic at all. Remember
the old saying “If you always do
things the same way, you will always get
the same results”. Maybe the reason
why you are not in a loving relationship
right know is because you haven’t
fully realised what it is you really want.
It is therefore advisable to avoid including
extremely specific demands in your profile
– let life surprise you a bit!
Studies show that an
online dating profile with a picture will
yield a lot more responses than one without.
You may think it shallow of people to
demand a photo – and some people
are very shallow online as well as offline
– but the truth is that you don’t
have to look like gladiator or a supermodel
to yield more responses once you have
added your picture. A perfectly normal
everyday picture of you smiling into the
camera or participating in one of your
favourite activities (cooking, gardening,
rollerblading etcetera) will do fine.
A lot of people do not wish to initiate
contact with persons who do not post their
picture online, because one far too common
reason for people to avoid posting a photo
is them already being married or engaged
and afraid of anyone recognizing them
on the Internet.
Dare to be personal!
If you feel that the suggestions above
are silly or do not fit your personality,
don’t use them! The aim of your
dating is to find a person that is compatible
with you, the true you, and the more honest
you are about yourself the higher your
chances of finding someone who appreciates
you for who you truly are. A profile that
makes you into something you really are
not will only attract the wrong type of
persons; persons that you have no future
with.
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